How to get rid of toxic people?
Surrounding yourself with toxic people for long is an uninvited invitation to your downfall.
Surrounding yourself with toxic people for long is an uninvited invitation to your downfall.
Sometimes, it might not even be your fault. You might be trying to get rid of such people, but they make it tougher by not leaving your life.
Who are toxic people?
A toxic person can be anyone whose behavior adds negativity to your life. It is not necessary that toxic people intentionally want to add negativity to your life, but the negativity is a result of their past, and how they conduct themselves. The majority of the time, such people might not even know that they are being toxic. Hence, it is important for you to tell them, and cut them off.
How to identify toxic people?
To be able to identify toxic people, you need to be self-aware. Otherwise, it becomes tough to spot them & the probability of you getting negatively affected increases manyfold.
The first step in identifying toxic people is to identify if you have been feeling different in a negative way, for the past few days. This could be feeling irritated, frustrated, judged, uncomfortable, etc.
The second step is to make a list of potential people that you feel can be toxic. This list will probably contain people that you consider good friends or not-so-good friends. Very rarely, will it contain your best friends or your colleagues.
The third step is to think, and individually rank these people on 3 factors, namely:
On a scale of 1-10, how uncomfortable do you feel while around them/ talking to them?
On a scale of 1-10, how much negativity has come into your life because of this person?
On a scale of 1-10, how badly has your mental health been affected due to this person?
Based on the rankings above, you can easily decide who those toxic people are.
How to get rid of such people?
In the majority of the cases, you can gradually start swaying away from them by not spending time with them, & not giving them too much importance.
However, there are cases, wherein the person might not be willing to leave your life, even if you want them to. For such cases, you can follow any one of the following methods:
Talk to them: This must be the first approach, wherein you talk to them about how they have become toxic for you, and put forward your wish to stay away from them. It is also important to convey, that you have nothing against them as a person, but you feel that your frequencies just do not match.
Block them: If the above approach does not work, and they are adamant about staying in your life, but you have made your decision to get rid of them, you must block them. If you do not, there is a possibility that they might create more trouble for you in the near future.
Try changing them: This approach should be used if you have some feelings for the person, and do not want to get rid of them. Sometimes, the people that we love the most become toxic, and we do not want them to leave our lives. In such cases, it makes sense to talk to them about their behavior, ask them to change, and help them in the process.
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