How can you build successful & long lasting relationships?
Relationships are one of the most important things humans need, to survive in the universe. Today, let's break down how you can build successful relationships with people.
Relationships are one of the most important things humans need to survive in the universe. And relationships can be of various types - romantic, friendly, family, etc.
Today, let's break down how you can create successful relationships with people.
What is a relationship, fundamentally?
Fundamentally speaking, a relationship is nothing but a transaction between two people. You give something for something in return.
The transaction could be knowledge transfer, care, etc.
Why do relationships end?
I am sure you have ended certain relationships in the past. Ever thought, why?
It is because the rules of the transaction were never really defined. Due to this, the relationship could be unequal or one-sided. Adding on, when boundaries aren't clear, relationships are bound to end.
How to build a successful relationship?
Trust me; it is not too tough to build a happy relationship. Follow the steps below, & you should be good to go.
Make a list of the ten most important things you expect from the other person in the future in the relationship. I would expect Trust, loyalty, respect, understanding & down to earth nature along with things like meeting regularly, etc. This step is super important as it sets clear boundaries that cannot be crossed & eliminate other things that can be compromised.
Observe the other person's actions concerning the ten things you have written down. This will give you a sense of whether they are the right person for the type of relationship you are looking for.
If you feel that they are the right person, ask them to list the ten most essential things they expect from you.
Finally, sit down & discuss all of the above pointers. This will enable both of you to set & define clear boundaries that none of you should cross & also convey that other things can be compromised upon.
Once you both get to the same page & clearly understand each other's expectations, it is very tough to go wrong. Let's take two simple scenarios to demonstrate this:
You expect the other person to be loyal. Once this is defined, the person consciously knows their boundary. Hence, the probability of them crossing that boundary is reduced. However, if they cross the boundary, you will be 100% clear on your next step. Had the boundary not been defined, it would have hurt more.
You expect the other person to bring gifts for you. However, this is something that you have not defined in the top 10 things you expect. Now, if they get gifts, great, if they don't, you won't be too upset about it as you are aware that this is not the most important thing for me in this relationship. Had you not made a list, you might have been upset about it, & the relationship could have suffered as well.
I am sure the above steps sound overwhelming & might not be possible for every relationship. But, ensure to do it for the most important relationships of your life.
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